The necessity for connection…

Relationships are the heartbeat of psychological stability in the lives of each one of us. Dr Donald Joy PhD has written a book titled Bonding: Relationships in the image of God. This book demonstrates the effect of two systems noteworthy of consideration. One, The Neurotic System: In this system people who are supported by as few as ten to twelve people begin to show signs of depression and distortions in their world around them. This is on the basis of lack of socialization and other factors related to needs for connection–relationships. Two, the Psychotic System: This systems lack of relationship creates a dependency, isolation, and despondency that lends itself to instability just on the lack of connection alone. Relationships and their experiences are very meaningful and necessary. What happens in relationships creates even further– an entire internal world within ourselves, the people around us, our clients.
Schematically, as people–we are to a great extent the by product of experience. A good portion of our personality is formed this way and continues to be. We can not escape the things that cause for our shaping and cognitive structuring, the way we read and interpret others is based partly on what we’ve learned throughout life. Transference is a component of projecting these thoughts and feeling towards others when we are with them. They are based on objective perspectives through historical experience and the thought life congruent with those experiences. Projections within the constructs of groups and or individual processes are telling when explored. Good bad or indifferent, in the therapy room, and in group process…clients bring all the world that is in them and their experiences to the groups they attend. Good therapists and good group members ought to be open to the understanding and searching out of why those projections exists within themselves and others and how those projections are activated when placed in a group or therapeutic environment. Transference reveals the inner core of ones history, experience, and interpretations of things in real time. While many therapists pay attention to these things– we ought to encourage our clients to pay equal attention as well…